Taking Control Part 2

How much time do you have left over for you?  Time is precious.  Survey your use of your time.  There are many things that we all have to do, and they may not be all that much fun.  But there are other things that are sucking up a whole lot of time where you do have a choice.  It may seem like you don’t, but in fact you do.  We all get talked into doing things for an organization, a family member, or a friend that we really do not want to do—and yet we continue to do it.  Take charge of your time.  Learn to say no.

Make a simple list of key things you have done this past month and ask yourself these questions:

Did I enjoy it?

Is it part of my core—meaning would I do it again because it is who I am—even if it is not enjoyable (for example, taking care of someone who is ill, or handling another family member’s responsibility, because someone needs to be there)?

If I didn’t do it, would it really make a difference? And the bigger issue is: do I care?

Is it connecting me to people I enjoy working or being with?

In other words, what are you doing that you have to do regardless, what are you doing that is driving you nuts, what are you doing that makes you happy, and what can you get out of?  Spend more time on things that make you smile and bring you joy.  I am sure that you deserve it.  One more thing about time. If you are creative, a hard worker, take responsibility, or have money to donate, organizations (via people they send) will just keep coming at you, asking for more time, more committees, more boards, and more money. You just have to learn to say no. I know it is crazy flattering, but unless you are really passionate about the cause, learn to say no. One thing is easy for me and I like to do it: I will give an organization ONE DAY of my time: one speech, one strategy session, one meeting or whatever. As long as it is to help once, I am happy to participate. I can share what I know or listen to their issues and make suggestions without having to join their board. Actually, the one-time sessions are rewarding and usually pretty fun.